Groom Style Trends for Autumn/Winter

With autumn fast approaching, and summer having been a near-total write-off in Ireland, we are looking ahead to some opulent and masculine style trends for grooms for the coming months. The Fall/Winter 2015/16 menswear shows featured lots of dark, muted tones, luxe fabrics and classic fits, leading away from the super-skinny pants and ties of seasons past. Today we explore some of our favourite groom trends – let us know your favourites!

Pattern

Want to stick to the classic dark coloured suit, but break from tradition in another way? Pattern is key here. Dolce & Gabana did it so well, with a sophisticated jacquard pattern adorning full suits, or just the lapels for those who want only a hint of detail. Roberto Cavalli went in a similiar vein with the muted, velvety jackets, but in a more modern pattern.

The New Traditional 

Rustic and vintage wedding trends were reflected by tweed, and a masculine, old-world style graced the runways in the form of sharp tailoring that screamed gentleman. Ralph Lauren and Dior did best, with enviable waistcoats, pocketwatches and bowties.

Shine On

For dull winter days, add some depth to your look with powersuits that shine, like these styles from Versace.

How to have a top secret wedding

If the past 2 years are anything to go by, having a secret wedding is the super-hot trend that celebrities around the world are setting. The days of selling exclusive wedding photos to the likes of OK! and Hello seem to be over, with many celebs choosing a top-secret wedding date, location and even keeping shtum about whether the event even happened or not for months afterwards! In the last few months alone, we’ve been left crying out for details about the big days of Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux, Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher and Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden. Many of these weddings masqueraded as parties, with guests completely in the dark over what was about to happen. It seems as though many celebrities are taking back their privacy by keeping their truly intimate moments such as weddings and babies a secret from the rest of the world.

For those of us existing in the real* world, there are many couples out there who crave such privacy and intimacy for their own weddings. Many introverted people balk at the idea of 12 or 18 months of people harassing them with questions like “when’s the big day?”, “where are you having it?” and “you should hire ‘x’, my cousin used them and they were AMAZING”. The notion of having every detail of your wedding dissected before it’s even begun, combined with worrying about guest lists and table plans, can be incredibly stressful and off-putting to many people. Why not take a leaf out of the celebrities’ books, and plan your very own top-secret, surprise wedding?

*non-Hollywood

How to have a secret or surprise wedding

Source: Bridal Guide

First things first, make a plan with your partner. If you’re having a secret wedding, you will more than likely not even be telling your parents, and therefore paying for the whole thing yourselves (even though this is becoming more and more common anyway). Depending on the size of the wedding party you want to have, you may need months to save up enough money to pay for it. Likewise, if you’re planning to have a traditional wedding reception at a hotel over a weekend, you will find prime dates are booked up well in advance. A church ceremony may completely blow your cover, unless you have a small child that needs to be christened, so it may be best to stick to a civil or humanist ceremony. Try to secure a ceremony time for as late as possible, as people may become suspicious if they see a start time of 4 or 5pm for the party – 7pm will be more appropriate. You could always do the official part in a registry office before or afterwards, and have a simple blessing at the party itself to avoid this situation. Be aware that guests will be suspicious too if you have chosen a hotel that’s well-known for weddings, so you will need a good cover. It could be a surprise birthday party for one of you or for a relative, or even an engagement party. If you want people to dress formally, make sure you say so on the invitation.

How to have a secret or surprise wedding

Source: Style Me Pretty

Bear in mind that you will need two witnesses for your marriage. Pick two people that you can count on to be there, as you will need to provide their details to your officiant beforehand and they may need to show identification. Let all of your wedding suppliers including the officiant know that it is a surprise wedding to avoid any mentions on social media or among your local community. It may also be worth sourcing your outfits in another town or city, so as not to be caught out by a passing friend or colleague! One issue with this is that you won’t have your usual entourage in tow to help you choose your dress, so find a great boutique with a stylist that you can trust to give you honest yet tactful feedback.

Because your wedding is a secret, you can use this opportunity to have exactly the kind of day you want, without the advice (solicited or unsolicited) from friends and family. It can be as formal or as casual as you like. As you won’t be having a traditional bridal party (unless you ask some friends or family members on the day to stand with you) you will avoid the hassle of choosing dresses or suits that not everyone likes, and the food choices will be yours and yours alone – no chimes of “aunty Mary doesn’t eat beef, so you’d better pick the turkey and ham!”.

How to have a secret or surprise wedding

Source: Pop Sugar

Finally, only invite those that you really want to be there to share in your special day. This is not the time to worry about inviting everyone you’ve ever worked with or the relatives you’re not really fond of, and if you want an adults-only event, this is an excellent way to get around it. The key is to plan everything as you would for a normal wedding, with the only difference being that you will have to keep it completely secret. This is a wonderful opportunity to plan the event completely with your partner, as they will be the only person you can really share the excitement with!

What it’s like to co-ordinate a wedding at 7 months pregnant

I’ve been helping two friends of mine from college to plan their wedding since April 2014. After finding out in late February this year that I was expecting, my thoughts immediately went to their wedding day in August, and what it would be like to co-ordinate the wedding day at just shy of seven months pregnant! The last few months have been great, planning everything via phone and email and the odd meeting here and there didn’t bother me as I’ve been so lucky with the pregnancy, but in the past few weeks tiredness and aching has started to catch up with me. It was so important for me that my friends’ wedding day would go off without a hitch (excuse the pun), so I tried to put aside the elephant in the room, i.e. the big baby bump. Today I want to tell you a little bit about the wedding and what it was like to work the full day at 29 weeks pregnant.

Clothes

I wanted to look nice for the wedding of course, regardless of pregnancy I absolutely love attending weddings and getting dressed up. The selection in Ireland of maternity wear that’s actually suitable for wearing to weddings, however, is dismal. I live in Galway, and access to maternity wear is minimal, and mostly casual, such as jeans and t-shirts from New Look. The last few weeks had been so busy that I didn’t have time to take a trip to Cork or Dublin to try the standalone maternity boutiques, and I didn’t want to buy anything too early as my body has been changing so rapidly. Online shopping is difficult – I did buy a simple black mid-length dress from Asos, but it definitely needed to be worn with a pair of heels and after spraining my foot three weeks ago, heels were out of the question. My mam treated me to a really pretty navy and mint tea-length dress from Red Herring, which I teamed with a pair of navy flats from Penney’s and a chunky bright blue necklace borrowed from my sister. Comfort was my goal for this wedding as I knew I would be running/waddling around a lot, and the dress and shoes helped me achieve that.

Red Herring Navy Floral Maternity Prom Dress Debenhams

The fab Red Herring dress that I wore

Sleep

I was up early the morning of the wedding, and even though I tried to get to bed early the night before, my mind was racing as it always is before an event as I mentally run through everything that needs to happen the next day. As I’m still working full-time, it’s difficult to find enough time for everything in the evenings when all you want to do is take a nap! I genuinely thought I would need to go for a lie-down after the wedding meal, but luckily my energy levels didn’t dip too low.

Sleeping dog

Running/Waddling

Of course there is always some stress or just a sense of urgency going on in the background of a wedding. The guests shouldn’t see this, and I always make it my goal to be as serene and calm as possible when in public. It still entails a lot of rushing around as you ensure guests are in place for the ceremony, that the groom and his groomsmen understand where they’re supposed to be, and that the bridal party are directed in to the ceremony in the correct order and in good time. Finally, ensuring that the bride is feeling good and calm before she walks in. My beautiful bride was in good spirits as she walked into the church, and had a big smile on her face. Later, on arrival to the hotel, there were quick checks to ensure everything was in place for the reception, calls to the remaining suppliers to ensure they were all on time and liaising with the hotel staff to run through the timings for the evening. Some of my friends were also attending the wedding and worried about me doing too much, and insisting that I sit down and relax, but as I explained to them until the band were set up and playing after dinner, I was still working and that’s the moment I could relax.

Pregnant woman running

Dancing

I LOVE TO DANCE! I mean I really do! So you can imagine the disappointment of having one or two spins around the dance floor before realising your energy levels just aren’t there anymore, plus you really don’t feel elegant! I’m normally the best person to get others up to fill the dancefloor, but it’s just not possible anymore. This is the last wedding I’m co-ordinating before baby comes, bar a few wedding stationery orders, so I definitely tried to make the most of it. At the end of the night (12.30am for me, 5am for everyone else!) both the bride and groom and their families were all having an absolute ball, so it was a success overall. I was delighted for them, but also glad to be heading home to my own bed!

pregnant-wman-dancing

Geek Chic Wedding Inspiration

There are lots of guys and gals out there who just love comic books, Star Wars, Dungeons & Dragons, Doctor Who, Pokemon and beyond. If you and your husband or wife to be share this love, why not incorporate it into your wedding day? We’ve collected some of chicest, geekiest wedding ideas from around the web to inspire your comic book/graphic novel loving self.

Groomsmen Boutonnieres & Cufflinks

Miniature super heroes and comic book characters take pride of place on the guy’s jackets in lieu of flowers, while more geek chic characters are discreetly hidden on their cuffs.

Super Cakes

Display your love for all things geek chic with a unique Harry Potter, Doctor Who or Lego cake.

One Ring to Rule Them All

Fans of Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit can go all out with engraved wedding bands, a fellowship of groomsmen and bridesmaids and literary inspired signage.

Mother of the Bride & Groom Style Tips

We recently spoke to Lynn Jo Chaney, a lifestyle blogger who formerly worked in a department store advising lots of lovely ladies on the best style for weddings. Lynn Jo gave us some great insight into choosing an outfit for the mother of the bride or groom.

When should you start shopping? 
Personally I am the kind of person who would shop for an outfit months in advance but you don’t necessarily need to be as super prepared as me. I would say don’t leave it to the last minute. Give yourself at least a month, two if you’re willing. To me this is enough time to allow for everything on top of actually looking for an outfit. People forget the work that would go in on top of actually finding the outfit you like. You may want to come back to try the outfit on with different people or different underwear. The size you need or colour you want may need to be ordered. You may want the outfit in a different colour which may not be in stock for a few weeks. There may be new ranges coming in you wish to look at. You may also need to make some alterations; while many people find the perfect outfit, it’s not uncommon for it to need a little tweak here or there. This amount of time also allows for anything which may go wrong!
Gill Harvey at Vanity Fair mother of the bride mother of the groom ireland

Gill Harvey @ Vanity Fair, Newbridge

Are mothers dieting to fit into the perfect out?
There is a mix here. Some mothers come into the store and have dieted and lost some or a lot of weight. I found in most cases these were slightly larger women and often they told me it was because they normally have such trouble with trying on clothes that they lost weight to make the experience a bit easier or for their own confidence. Often, it was because the other mother was very glamourous. However, mothers losing weight was definitely rare when compared to the number of women I would have dressed. Most women at the age where their child is getting married have grown to accept their bodies and know what suits them and work with it. A lot would come in knowing exactly what they wanted as it suited their shape, something they have worked with for a long time. Also most knew how to camouflage or hide their insecurities and if not we were on hand to provide advice, whether it be a wrap to cover bumpy arms or a belt to cinch in that waist.
Cabotine at McElhinneys mother of the bride mother of the groom ireland

Cabotine @ McElhinneys, Ballybofey

What type of underwear and shoes are best to bring when trying on outfits?
We were blessed that our department store had a lingerie section where the staff were more than willing to come to our ladies and recommend underwear for their outfits. But so often did women try on dresses and turn around and say “sure I’m wearing crap underwear”. Wear your good underwear, not necessarily what you’ll wear the day of but something similiar, with a good silhouette and lift. If you think you will wear Spanx on the day, wear them trying on. You don’t want to have to come back to the shop for the sake of trying an outfit on with the right pants. You may as well get the full effect first time. Sometimes the right underwear is the difference between loving or loathing an outfit. Same goes for shoes. Wear the type of shoes you would most likely wear to the wedding. They may not be the exact pair but once they have the height you would go for wear them. This again can be the difference between taking or leaving a dress. We had a shoe shop in store which was handy to give someone an idea of shoes but often they didn’t have what the customer would naturally wear and they found it hard to get an idea.
Annburys Boutique, Tralee 
Are there any fashion DON’Ts?
Do not wear the same colour as the bride. It is her day and she is meant to stand out. I know the saying is don’t wear white, but don’t wear the colour the bride is getting married in, especially if you are in the wedding party and will be in the photos. I find personally you should try to compliment the colour scheme of the bridal party. Also don’t wear something inappropriate for the occasion. Mainly though, don’t settle on your outfit. Go for something you are happy, confident and comfortable in, not just because it is a typical outfit. It’s a big day for you too and you should enjoy it without worrying about how you look.
Veromia at The Real Woman mother of the bride mother of the groom ireland

Veromia @ The Real Woman, Wicklow

Thanks so much to Lynn  Jo for sharing these great shopping tips with us! Make sure you check out her blog here.

10 Unusual First Dance Songs

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Every year, there is a particular subset of popular first dance songs – 2015 has been the year of Ed Sheeran, John Legend and Ellie Goulding. There are always the classics that will appear now and again, such as Etta James’ ‘At Last’, Elvis Presley’s ‘Can’t Help Falling in Love’, ‘Everything’ by Michael Buble and ‘Crazy Love’ by Van Morrison. If you’re looking to shake things up with a really unique first dance, but still want to keep the vibes of love, here are some of our favourites.

Wild Horses – The Rolling Stones / The Sundays (fans of Buffy the Vampire Slayer will know this version)

Days Like This – Van Morrison

Bittersweet Symphony – The Verve

Champagne Supernova – Oasis

Everywhere – Fleetwood Mac

Come Away With Me – Norah Jones

You’re My Best Friend – Queen

Just Like Heaven – The Cure

Romeo & Juliet – Dire Straits

Rocky Took a Lover – Bellx1

All videos are from Youtube

Magnificent Monochrome Wedding Ideas

Choosing a colour scheme for your wedding can be one of the biggest decisions you’ll have to make. Do you have a favourite colour? Will it work for the season that your wedding falls in? Is it too loud or garish? Lime green may not exactly suit a low-key, vintage wedding, likewise pale pink won’t be the most suitable for a carnival-style wedding. Monochrome could be the way to go. Generally, monochrome means black and white or varying shades of one colour; for the purposes of this blog post we’re going to talk about the elegance of a black and white palette. This great combination, while it may sound a little safe, can lend a real feeling of glamour to your wedding, no matter what the season. It’s also the go-to colour combo for a black tie wedding. Here are some of our favourite ideas for creating the perfect monochrome wedding palette!

Attire

This is probably the easiest place to start with your monochrome colour palette. Brides can add a black sash, shoes and jewellery to their big white dress; the guys will look dashing in either a black tuxedo with white shirt and even bowtie, or for the more daring groom a cream tux with black accents will look amazing. Bridesmaids will appreciate a flattering black gown, and if you are letting the girls choose their own dresses, black will give them lots of options. For the bride who wants to turn tradition on its head, a black gown a lá 90210 star Shanae Grimes will be a real statement, and you could have your bridesmaids kitted out in white.

Decor

Black and white wedding decor will make a striking impact on your guests. No need to overdo it; subtle details such as white chair covers with black sashes or black chiavari chairs, black and white striped ribbon on the cake, black napkins, black vases filled with white blooms…the options are endless!

Flowers

With lots of choices for white or neutral colour flowers, black will be where you might meet a roadblock! But don’t worry, there are other ways to incorporate black into your bouquet and your ceremony and reception flowers. Black silk, feathers and pearls can be tied in with white blooms, along with black satin stem wraps or even black and white striped ribbons. Anemones also have a beautiful black centre and are a great option for a monochrome look.

Stationery

Your wedding stationery is the first glimpse at your wedding style that your guests will see. Monochrome invitations will look elegant and stylish, and will actually work even if you’re not planning on carrying the monochrome theme through your wedding. You can carry the look through to your ceremony programmes, menu cards, table numbers and table plans, and even follow up with a thank you card for your guests that features a black and white photo of you and your new husband or wife.

Do you plan to have a monochrome wedding colour scheme? Tell us all about it!